Rolando will live on through the Las Vegas Tribune
At some point in time, almost all of us give some thought to the day we will no longer be around, meaning that we will have reached our expiration date.
Although it does not seem like the kind of thought we might choose to have, it is definitely worth spending a bit of time on that subject. I know for a fact that Rolando did.
While he did not brood over what would be in the future, as far as I know, he did give a lot of thought to what would happen to his “child,” the Las Vegas Tribune, and desired that it would not die.
There always comes a time when death will be a reality in the life of every person, and unless a person has a different escape plan, which is highly unlikely, it will find all of us.
Since we know our day will be coming, what things are most important for us to record in some way for those we leave behind? Not everyone hires a lawyer to draw up a will for them, or even a trust, but they can at the very least make their wishes known while they are still alive for how they wish to be treated during that time.
But just remember, that will likely only cover your wishes for while you are still alive and not necessarily serve as a will for after you’re gone, except maybe for disposal of your body. If you have little to leave behind and no one to fight over your last wishes after you’re gone, you may choose not to leave a will at all. My father died unexpectedly and never had a will. He didn’t even have a list of who might get what, but everything he left behind just automatically went to my mother, and none of her children were about to make our father’s passing more of a tragedy for her by fighting over any of our father’s stuff.
In recent years, something called “Five Wishes” has become popular. It is a pre-written booklet that very clearly points out things you might not have given a thought too, but the ones you will be leaving behind will have to, things like…
Who will take care of me in my final illness?
Do I want to die at home or is the hospital okay?
Do I want whatever treatment my doctors deem viable, no matter what?
And even things like…
Do I want friends or family around me?
Do I want anyone to pray with me?
Do I want music in my room?
It’s crafted so it makes it easy for the one answering the questions, and it seems to be popular with doctors, lawyers, and even the hospitals — and it certainly is a very kind thing to make it easier on those who must be in charge of making the choices you would choose for yourself. Remember, if your loved one doesn’t tell you what he wants when it comes to his final illness, those he/she leaves behind (at least one of them) will have to make the decisions for you if you are unable to speak for yourself.
It must sound strange for me to say that I think death is the most important thing that happens to one in life… but think about it! Life lasts for only a certain number of years (even if it is a great many years); but death is the first step in living forever and yet it seems that many people hardly give it enough thought.
Have you ever considered what you really would like to leave behind? How about memories of yourself that will be pleasant for others to remember?
What people remember about you will be far more valuable than anything tangible you could leave them.
At least if you use Five Wishes as your final statement, you can say whatever you would want for your final wishes and care. And that will be important to you when the time comes. But perhaps you would especially want to know that after you’re gone, your wishes will also be carried out, if at all possible. But one thing’s for sure: if those wishes aren’t known, they can’t be followed except by chance.
Rolando made known that he wanted his paper to go on. Those of us who got that message will carry it out the very best we can. It was his most important wish. He might’ve had other wishes as well, but if so, perhaps only his sister knows for sure.
One thing I know is that Rolando would be proud of his sister for all she is doing to make his last wish come true. At least for now and till who knows when, the Las Vegas Tribune lives on!
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Maramis Choufani is the Managing Editor of the Las Vegas Tribune. She writes a weekly column in this newspaper. To contact Maramis, email her at firstname.lastname@example.org.