say to a person who lost a mother who was very close to him on a daily
There is nothing that can be said that makes sense to the person who
is suffering the loss of a mother. I’ve been there, done that.
That is the situation I am facing this week with my good friend Peter
Gariano and the rest of his family after Peter’s mother passed last
weekend, following a few days in the hospital with heart failure.
How can I tell him to have resignation? How can I tell him to be
understanding about that true fact of life? How can I tell my friend
that it is a normal fact of life that we all come into this world on a
certain day, but that our departure date is unknown?
We all know that, but it is impossible for us to admit and accept that
fact when we lose a loved one; it is almost impossible to accept that
logic when it is our mother we just lost.
I can relate to the pain Peter and his family is suffering right now
because I also suffered the pain of losing my own mother, but I can
only imagine how painful it is to them at a time like this because I
know how close Peter was to his mother.
I believe that my family was a very tight and close family, but I
don’t pretend that I was as close to my mother as Peter was to his;
there was a time, for a long time, that I used to live about three
thousand miles away from my mother until she finally came back to Las
Vegas, while Peter lived close to his mother all the time.
Seldom did I take my mother shopping or anyplace else because my
sister was a very dedicated daughter who was always available and able
to do the duty that we, my brother and I, were supposed to do as well,
since she was also our mother.
Peter enjoyed doing things with his mother, yet always managed to find
time to spend with his wife and keep a very close relation with his
children. He is as proud of all his children as they are proud of
having the kind of father they have.
I know that many of my enemies, many of those people who always find a
reason to criticize me and attack me are going to complain that I use
the ink and the space that can be used for something more community
oriented than an obituary on the front page of a newspaper, but that
is the benefit of being the boss, the one and only one responsible for
every single bill in this organization.
This loyal group by my side knows that I am not a narrow-minded
individual and I don’t make a decision without consulting them all the
time before I make a decision because I value their opinions and
respect their suggestions, but the reality is that when it comes to
the bills and financial responsibilities, they are all mine.
That is why when I get emails from little cowards complaining about
something or accusing me of doing things of which they “do not
approve” with funny emails that cannot be responded to because they
don’t have the pants to speak out openly I try to remind them that
everyone in this organization has the courage to write what they need
to write without hiding under an alias.
Those who are telling me that Fran Deane is using the name of Natasha
Minsky to write articles anonymously do not know either of us because
Fran Deane writes enough controversial articles on her own and does
not need to hide under an alias.
Sometimes people confuse freedom with freebies, or democracy with
Democrats, but that is not so with those at the Las Vegas Tribune.
Over the weekend I had a call from Fran Dean telling me that she
stumbled onto a story that involves one of our advertisers (who I’d
like to think is a personal friend of mine) and she wanted to know if
she should ignore the story and forget about it.
I told Fran that a big difference between this publication and others
is that the advertising department does not control the news content
of this newspaper, and she has the green light and my blessings to go
for the story.
Natasha Minsky has proven herself to her audience by writing articles
that many other so-called reporters are not allowed to write and has
proven herself to be a brave young woman who makes all those who know
her very proud; I am sure that if she did not have another paying job
that could be jeopardized for what she writes, she probably would
attach her photo to her columns.
But another reason why Natasha does not attach her picture to her
articles is because she is not a columnist, and only columnists place
a photo by their articles (out of vanity) so they can always be
recognized when they go someplace.
Always having one’s photo by one’s column was an old custom for Las
Vegas columnists when this city used to be more generous with those
who wrote about the local casinos and shows; they used to do that
because it was easy for the maitre d’s and captains at the door to
recognize them and comp their dinner or drinks. But the custom
continues today even though the corporate geniuses took over Las
Vegas. So despite the fact that getting a complimentary check now
takes an act of Congress, most columnists kept their picture by their
Getting back to my thought about the passing of my friend Peter
Gariano’s mother being on the front page of the Las Vegas Tribune: the
day someone else takes responsibility for the financial obligations of
this organization they may try and I emphasize the word may to tell me
what to write because I will still do what I believe is the right
thing to do regardless, because those who criticize me will do that
anyway because that is what they do best.
I have always believed that it is easy enough to complain about a
problem without coming up with a solution to the problem, and that
only those with small minds will do that, or those who are arrogant
enough to think that they can keep on misleading and fooling the
However, I will still be praying for the memory of my friend’s mother
and for the Lord to give them the resignation to accept His doing; I
pray for the Gariano family to get the strength to cope with the pain
that losing their loved one may cause asking God to bless my friend
Peter Gariano and his family.
My prayers are with all of them and those close to the family who were
lucky enough to know the matriarch of the Gariano family.
My name is Rolando Larraz, and as always, I approved this column.
Rolando Larraz is Editor in Chief of the Las Vegas Tribune. His column
appears weekly in this newspaper. To contact Rolando Larraz, email him
at: Rlarraz@lasvegastribune.com or at (702) 699-8111.