Once upon a time, there was a beautiful princess who was so lovely to
look at that the sun itself took special pleasure in shining upon her
face. She lived in her father’s palace near a deep, dark forest that
sheltered an old stone well, which was so deep one could never see the
The princess loved to sit by the well in the cool shade and play with
her favorite toy, a golden ball. One day when she was playing, the
ball fell from her hand and tumbled into the well. The princess cried
bitterly at its loss.
“What’s the matter?” came a croaky voice from nearby.
“Oh, it’s you!” said the princess to the talking frog.
When the princess explained what was wrong, the frog told her he knew
just what to do to get her ball back, but first she had to promise
something in return.
“Anything,” she replied. “You can have my jewels or even the crown
upon my head.”
“All I want,” the frog said, “is for you to be fond of me and let me
be your playmate. Let me sit by your side, share your dinner, and
sleep in your bed… then I will go down the well and fetch your
The princess agreed, thinking the frog would never really be the
companion of a human being.
As the story goes along, we find that her father, the king, insists
that she keep her promise to the frog, no matter what. With great
distaste for being a slimy creature’s friend, she lives up to her
word. But in the end — as if we, the readers, didn’t know what was
coming — we discover that the frog is really a prince who was put
under a spell by a wicked fairy and only the princess herself could
return him to his princely form by her kindness.
What is generally not noticed, or perhaps is deliberately downplayed,
is that it is her father who wants her to take this prince to be her
husband and companion, even though she might already be finding
herself very attracted to his charming good looks.
And therein we have several examples of the concept of a mutually
beneficial arrangement:between the princess and the frog, in order for
her to get her ball back; between the princess and her father, for her
to stay in his good graces; between the frog and the princess, for him
to feel justly compensated for completing his end of the bargain; and
between the frog-prince and the princess, to take advantage of the
circumstances in which they found themselves, even if initiated by,
and with the nudging and blessing of, the king.
And so they found themselves to be a couple and presumably lived
happily after, even though we never did get to read any stories about
what happened after the princess married the prince.
Then along comes real life. There are very few princes and princesses
out there in real life, and even fewer princes who have been turned
into a frog by a wicked fairy — especially one who additionally tacks
on to that spell the proviso that there’s only person who can ever
break that spell — and even then, it must be done in a very particular
But while there are plenty of “ordinary” and/or beautiful women and
“ordinary” and/or wealthy men who are hoping to find each other in
this far-from-fairy-tale-fantasy kind of real world (that might be the
good news), meeting just the right person and feeling the connection
may be far more difficult than it ever was for a princess to make nice
to a frog (that would be the not-so-good news).
Then along comes SeekingMillionaire.com and SeekingArrangement.com.
Just a couple of the several relatively new websites for those who
wish to meet up with the person of their choice. Dating websites have
been around for quite some time now, and those seeking an opportunity
to meet someone have many options at their fingertips. The key word
though is “opportunity,” since there are no guarantees that anyone a
seeker would be interested in would necessarily be interested in them.
Of course it would feel like “rejection” all over again, but at least
it would be a more or less private rejection, and possibly even allow
you, the one being rejected, to reevaluate what might make you less
than desirable. It could be worth a try.
But “dating,” some might think, is not the right word to use for some
of these websites. Some might feel they should come right out and call
them SeekingPartner websites. Maybe, from the woman’s point of view,
some men might just want to go straight for that kind of relationship
and bypass the whole dating thing. No romance; no courtship; no
falling in love; no niceties. They meet, they see that the other is
passable and likable enough, and they arrange to get married. That’s
that. They both get what they want: a spouse. A partner for life.
Maybe a stepmother or stepfather for their children. Maybe someone to
keep them from feeling so lonely. In any regard, they get married or
coupled. End of story.
But what about all those others who feel they have a whole lot more to
offer than most of the so-called “ordinary” people on most of those
websites? What about men who feel they have so much they can offer a
woman, but they’d expect the woman to offer them back a whole lot too?
What about women who feel they are more beautiful and sexy than
average women and want a man who can appreciate that — one who will
not expect them to get married, to give up all their glamour to have
children and become “ordinary housewives”? Why shouldn’t those kinds
of people be able to cut to the chase to find each other?
Well, whether or not they could before, they can now. Enter Brandon
Wade and his visionary websites geared for those who are predominantly
young, beautiful and sexy, or very wealthy and eager to share it with
“the right person.”
It all came to my attention last week when Brandon’s public relations
manager, Leroy, emailed me a press release:
I thought you’d be interested to know that Las Vegas ranks 9th for the
most eligible millionaires in the country.
Of the over 316 million people that live in the US, only 9 million are
actual millionaires. Of these 9 million wealthy, only a fraction are
single and looking for long-term relationships.
SeekingMillionaire.com decided to separate the “Clooneys” from the
“Prince Charmings” by polling over 100,000 of its own millionaires and
asking for their intentions in dating.
The site discovered that 89,503 millionaires are marriage-minded and
looking for a long-term commitment, with 664 eligible millionaires
residing in Vegas. This would be an interesting statistic to share,
especially to the local women who are still looking for their
It sounded like something I might investigate — for the good of the
local women still seeking their “happily-ever-after” — so I made an
appointment through Leroy to talk to Brandon and find out what his
particular websites were all about. And so he educated me.
SeekingMillionaire.com and SeekingArrangement.com are only two of his
controversial sites. But let’s be fair here: Brandon Wade is not
responsible for the desires in the hearts or the thoughts in the minds
of those who use his websites. He recognized something in people that
was there long before he showed up on the scene; he just decided to
capitalize on it. (Brandon himself is married, even though he writes
an advice column for seekers on his websites.)
There are many out there in “SeekingSomeoneLand” who always felt
attracted to wealth in particular (both men and women) and those who
seem to prefer avoiding the commitment of marriage, Brandon Wade
websites or not. So while traditionalists may find his websites more
than controversial, remember that this is still a free country (for
the most part) and no one who finds money and youth and beauty and
sexiness too superficial for use in finding their choice of a partner,
for whatever purpose, can simply not check his websites out.
Brandon’s mother once suggested to him, when he was much younger and
still feeling nerdy and very alone, that if he made money and was kind
and generous, the women would come. Well, apparently his mother was
right. Having money and being generous with it is a big attraction for
So whether any woman reading this is looking for a wealthy man to whom
she can offer all her youth and beauty and sexiness (in a mutually
beneficial arrangement of some kind), or some beautiful man feels he
can offer all he has to some very wealthy woman, maybe they’ll both
find just what they’re looking for on one of Brandon’s sites. On the
other hand, as Brandon well knows, there may always be people who will
continue to believe in the fairy tale-like fantasy of finding true
love — perhaps even right under their nose — if they can only
recognize it. Maybe those people will get married, or maybe they’ll
choose an informal, ongoing loving relationship for the rest of their
So whether one is looking for love (in all the wrong places?), or
looking for something else (on one of Brandon’s websites?), maybe the
end of their particular story will one day read:
“And they lived happily ever after.”
Maramis Choufani is the Managing Editor of the Las Vegas Tribune. She
writes a weekly column in this newspaper. To contact Maramis, email
her at firstname.lastname@example.org.
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