news events: suicides, war, political corruption, sexual abuse, and
worse. This week, however, there will likely be some headlines with a
warmer tone and a softer feel to them, since most everyone likes to
honor mothers in general, and certain mothers in particular. It’s
“Happy Mother’s Day week,” allowing for those softer stories to appear
in many papers. The Las Vegas Tribune does not want to be an
exception. We love mothers as much as, if not more, than anyone, and
we celebrate them this week.
When we say mothers, we first mean all women who embrace the
responsibility and cherish the children in their keeping, nurture them
and tend to their needs as they grow. That is the warmest, kindest
type of motherhood. Those are the mothers we hope all children could
have, but we know that loving mothers are not always the type of
female parent — whether biological, adoptive, or simply one who takes
on the “job” — that children experience.
Even though we celebrate the traditional concept of A Mother’s Love,
we know that some women face challenges in parenting that make the
home a place of confusion and sadness for countless children.
Some mothers have problems with postpartum depression and require help
to overcome a range of feelings and thoughts from basic sadness to
harmful thoughts of injuring their own children. We do not exclude
them from our thoughts at this time of year, and we know that many of
those women need help and need to get it now. A community that
cherishes its children will be on the lookout for such signs of
postpartum depression in their friends and neighbors, and especially
in their own family. Remember, it is always a loving thing to help a
mother who cannot operate in a normal loving mother mode.
Women who suffer post-birth mental illness are mothers in crisis who
need support from their families, medical professionals and the
community. Often, it cannot wait — even one more day. Without the
much-needed help, intervention and proper treatment, Mother’s Day
could become merely a far-away dream for those women and a horrific
nightmare for the children who suffer through those difficulties that
no child should ever have to bear. We advocate for awareness and
prevention of such situations; and when it’s too late for prevention
in some cases, we advocate for getting to the bottom of the tragedy —
not just punishing the mother — so that other mothers can be spared
the anguish. We hope that one day such troubled mothers will have a
chance to be called Mom and enjoy the love of their children on
Mothers Day and every day.
Some mothers, despite their best efforts, find themselves in
oppressive and abusive conditions that make being a loving mother
complicated if not impossible: women in abusive relationships and
women entrapped in illegal human trafficking situations. Yes, as
difficult as it is to imagine it, there are mothers and children who
are forced to remain hidden away, living in fear of being beaten or
killed if they don’t perform as demanded. There are mothers missing
and trapped. We must not forget them ever, especially on Mother’s Day.
Let’s cherish motherhood and help those mothers who are “drifting
away” through no fault of their own to share in the love of this
special day by helping them understand — through our caring about them
— what it means to be a mother.
The March of Dimes plays a major role in helping women and their
families raise healthier, happier children. For help with any area of
personal or family crisis, visit www.211.org or call 2-1-1, a free,
comprehensive information and referral service.