Sometimes the devastation is in the form of a local crime, but goes far beyond the actual crime of the perpetrator to that of the possible lasting effects on those who had to suffer through the event in some way, such as the children who were present during the murder of their mother in their northwest Las Vegas home this past week.
We all know that when one is in a rage, regardless of the reason for the rage, there is no rational thinking going on. There is no thought process in progress that informs the one so enraged that he better stop what he is doing and use some common sense. There is no thought mechanism that will automatically employ the physical brakes to any God-awful and irrevocable action that an enraged person is emotionally charged up for and in the middle of executing. Such surge of emotion and unthinking rage may well have an irrational or even incomprehensible beginning in all such persons who so experience it, but it appears to have an all-too-common ending: that of the enraged person following through with the objective of his rage: to hurt, maim or kill as the let-loose emotions attack the person at whom the rage is directed.
Sometimes, if the intended victim is lucky, someone or even something may intervene to stop the aggression and foil the object of the rage.
Often, however, there is no such luck.
We all know that whether a couple is married or not, circumstances can exist to make ending the relationship desirable or even necessary.
Often, at the same time, other circumstances can exist that make it difficult, if not seemingly impossible, for the couple to physically separate into two different residences once they have reached that point of no return. I happen to know of several couples right now who find themselves in that very situation, so that is not at all unusual or suspicious in any way. Where the greater portion of any possible future problem may lie, however, is in WHY the couple feels the need to separate and HOW the more offended party has been reacting, is reacting now, and may possibly react to the whole situation in the near future.
Jealousy knows no bounds. It doesn’t even need any basis in reality or facts on which to exist or grow. It is like an ugly seed of trouble, misery and evil that gets planted in a person’s heart and starts growing in the jealous partner’s mind — for whatever reason — seeking to express itself, whatever that takes, and however that expression will make itself known. Jealousy seems to not only need expression, but seems to want retribution and even release from that torturous and all-encompassing feeling of its own self-expression. Therefore, it doesn’t seem to matter who will hear about it or who will see it being expressed. It doesn’t seem to matter who will be affected by it or how it will even affect the jealous partner, the one suffering all that inner rage. And although the offended partner may think he’s got it
all under control, and the one at whom that suppressed rage is directed believes the two of them can survive together long enough until one or the other is able to leave that joint living arrangement, there are consequences that must be considered — and considered NOW, this very day — while there is still some semblance of control over the thoughts and actions of the so-called offended party — or the party that is prone to express his inner seething rage in outward
When something is over, “over” needs to be the operative word. Over, as in “Goodbye.” “I’m sorry, but I wish you well.” “Adios. See you around… maybe.” And so on. To remain together and feed the feelings that led to the breakup can be feeding the “monster within” that is getting harder and harder to restrain.
Those thoughts that must be considered, as mentioned above, have to do predominantly with children. If they have children, and especially if those children are living in the same home with the separating partners, THEY MUST BE CONSIDERED at all times, since behavior at the time of the exploding rage will NOT allow for that consideration. Is it really anyone’s intention or desire that their children be party to a murder? Could it really be a father’s intention that his children be there at the moment he murders their mother and then stabs himself? As horrible as murder is, is not the horror that can follow the children into their future — perhaps influencing their behavior and all their own relationships — a crime beyond comprehension, beyond any kind of understanding or rational thought?
Movies may only be movies, and the plots may often be just chilling inventions of a creative mind, but when we realize that many true stories about serial killers portrayed on TV depict some strange kind of perverted behavior by the perpetrators reflective of something horrible that happened to them when they were children, it should be more than enough — if simple love and regard for their children is not sufficient — to give the parents/partners pause to keep their actual and potential physical and verbal abuses and outbreaks away from those precious little or growing minds.
I have often mentioned to a friend, when the subject came up, that I would rather live in one tiny room with peace, than in a mansion filled with anything a human being could ever want — with bitterness, anger, and hate. If I could not afford even that one tiny room, I would find some kind of living situation away from the anger and hate.
It is so very sad that some homes are filled with anger and hate, and so beyond sad that such feelings often escalate into violence. How does one ever remove the vision and/or the knowledge of what one’s father did to one’s mother, in their own home. If one can’t have a safe haven in the home of one’s own parents, what can one expect in life?
Yes, those children CAN survive and still have a good life. Yes, they CAN in some way rise above this. I am rooting for them and believe that with proper guidance and counseling and support they will still grow up to be loving human beings. Yes, they will have to come to grips with the horrible crime their father committed, and we all hope they can, but that deed may well hang around to haunt them in some way — as if the crime wasn’t bad enough…