By Sandy Zimmerman
(Photos by Hero House)
Randy Haveson’s challenge to people is “Are you in control of the alcohol or is the alcohol in control of you,” His background has been in counseling, as the coordinator of alcohol programs on three campuses, and lecturer.
Randy believes people can make better choices when it comes to alcohol. “The two messages we give college students are, Just say no and the other one is be responsible.
The messages “be responsible”, means different things to different people. It doesn’t work for college students because they interpret “be responsible” in so many ways. You will get five different answers from 5 students.
Over 76% of college students are drinking, just say no does not work. It isn’t going to be effective for them. Randy created a research-based formula that teaches people how to do it in a low risk manner.
It’s 0 -1- 2- 3 Party with a Plan. Some times zero is your best option for the evening. If you have to drive, if you have been sick, if you have not eaten, if you are taking medication, or if you are under 21. The best choice is zero, because there are special consequences to deal with. The 1- 2- 3 means we are not discussing long island iced tea.
You can drink a 12 ounce beer, 5 ounce glass of wine, or 1 ounce shot in a mixed drink. Drink no more than two times a week and have no more than three drinks each of the two times you go out. Those are the low risk guidelines.
Do the 0- 1- 2- 3 and see if you can stick to those guidelines. Randy remembers, “If I ask my father to do the 0 — 1 — 2 — 3 there would be no problem. When my father goes to dinner, he will have a glass of wine, and it will last through most of the dinner. Some people would say it’s an impossible task.
It is very important to have a support network that you can call if things get bad. I’ve watched people who get sober, and for the first few weeks everything is great. They are thinking clearer, and they’re waking up fresh in the morning. Then all of a sudden the cravings hit.
“We want the people who were actually addicted, who are looking to get their lives back together. We wanted to find a house close to a college so they can walk or bike to campus. No excuses. People must find alternative coping mechanisms. There are many triggers. When you get stressed, what are some of the things you can do? Who can you call?
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It is vital to have a support network. Find a person or group of people who will help you out, whether it’s a CA, AA, NA, or other group. He wishes you “peace and happiness as you trudge the road to happy destiny.” Randy Haveson invites parents and college students to e-mail him to discuss their situation: E-mail: Randy@partywithaplan.org www.partywithaplan.com